Rebekah Honeycutt

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A Thought: Family and Friends

I decided that the sun beam shining above us was my Grandfather trying to be in the picture too.

My family is HUGE! Not because of the blood line that has carried my last name or the people who have married into the line, but because I have chosen more people to include into my family. Otherwise, my friends are my family as well as my blood/married relatives.

The problem as you grow older is that people begin their own lives. They create families of their own and they may move away from the place they once called home. It’s harder to keep up with each other when there is distance between you.

This occurs the same way as with friendships. Some people you were connected to as a child move away, and your bond is slowly removed. When you return to each other later in life you may find that you are two different people with no common ground anymore. The same happens when you are an adult.

Hopefully, you will have the opposite occur and you can pick up where you left off like nothing ever came between the two of you. This second portion is rare, but it does happen. These people are what I call TRUE friends/family.

Social networking, webcaming, cell phones, and other technologies have helped the world keep better contact with each other. These things allow us to communicate more than we would have been able to in the 90’s and before.

Even with all of these advances in communication, it doesn’t change the fact that people get busy with life. The reason is not that they don’t want to spend time with you, or talking to you.  The reason becomes life; life gets in the way of relationships sometimes.

I think of my blood family often; I check up on their statuses on FaceBook and stalk their photos. (Yep, I’m a family stalker. Haha) Honestly, I miss them more than words could describe. I think of how our family used to be and have trouble accepting that we are so distant now.

This doesn’t mean that I love them any less. I love my family without a doubt and would do anything possible to aid them in their lives. I automatically adore the new babies that are born into our family without having met them. It’s just the way I am I guess.

This works the same way with my friends that I have adopted as family members. I may not have seen them in 15 years, but I can hear their name and the memories will flood through my mind. I still love them today and if they have children, they are adopted family members also.

The part of this conversation that hurts the most is coming to accept that some people that are in your life today will not be there in the future. There is no easy way to grasp this reality, it just occurs naturally with time. There is no way to stop it from occurring, no matter how many times you wish it would not come true.

I had this conversation with my younger sister when she moved in with me from Florida (where I grew up). It upset her having to be away from her friends and not knowing anyone here in North Carolina.

I tried to explain that some people are meant to be in your life forever, and others are meant to stay for a while, make a mark in your life, and for you to remember them fondly later.

As time continued on the closeness she felt with some of her friends in Florida slowly began slipping, and what was left was her TRUE friends. She was also creating friendships here in North Carolina.

At first she didn’t like what I was telling her. She didn’t want it to be true. The more time passed, the more she fought against it with her whole heart. Watching this killed me inside. I wanted her to be right. I wanted all of the people she once knew to be there for her entire life, but they weren’t.

She returned to Florida to find that even when a short amount of time passes, people continue to change with or without you. The realization hit her hard, and she called me very upset. She returned from her trip and was more understanding and able to handle it better now that she had her own experience with it.

The important thing to remember is that no matter if the person is blood or chosen, they are still family.

Love them with your whole heart.

Remember the great times you shared.

Keep the memories of what you learned together close.

Don’t feel like they abandoned you purposefully.

Realize that life continues on.

Feel the pride of having them in your life.

Think of them often.

 

Remembering the fantastic times with my Grandpa.

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A Thought: College and Careers

After finishing High School, graduates are supposed to miraculously decide on which major to pursue. That’s a very difficult task to place on the shoulders of a “new-in-the-world-adult.”  I decided to explain how these decisions can be made.

Most of the population has no idea what they would like to do with their life. So, how can they decide which career feels right?

First, there are aids such as Personality Tests which can display a list of careers that may fit the students’ responses. This can also help in understanding there are more careers in the world then what the student originally considered.

In addition, there are many Career Assessment Tests and quizzes that can help the student navigate their journey. The job may sound amazing, but how do you know if it is the right path for you?

Luckily, most schools have added courses where students actually work instead of sitting in a classroom. Here they are able to learn hands-on skills, and understand business etiquette.

Students should attempt to begin the work-study class in High School. The student has the ability to leave school and go to work as their last class of the day. The important part here is to find a job in the career path the student wishes to explore.

*Side note* In college, these classes aren’t provided until the student is half-way or further through the degree chosen.

My advice to new college students is:

Take your General Education courses first. (This is the English, Math, History, Science courses you are used to)

Each semester throw in another course that is just for you, something that peaks your interest. (A course such as psychology or art history) See if you enjoy those classes and seek out more like them.

To get a degree of any kind you will have to add your main general education credits plus a good number of electives to the main courses.

Once you choose your major (or the career you want the most), you can choose a minor (the career you want second most). Remember, these are not set in stone. You may change them if you decide on a different path. You can also choose to have a Major in General Education until you decide what career best suits you.

College courses are not like High School classes. They are more extensive and require you to be the one in charge of your own actions. You have to be at school on time, and prepared to learn. Take your courses seriously, it’s not just school anymore… this is the beginning of your life.

College is not just about the future career you will have.

College is an intimate time for exploring yourself.

College is a time to learn who you are, what you like, and what you want.

Give yourself the motivation to become that person. You are your own cheerleader!

A little about me:

I was terrified of going to college. I had no idea what to expect, and what would be expected of me.

I wish I could tell you I have my life all figured out; I can’t. That would be a lie. I have a ton of ideas of what I want to do with this life, and I have many new ideas that join each day.

I enjoy college more than I ever thought I would. I love obtaining new knowledge, and I enjoy placing the information I receive into my daily life.

I have many different skills, ideas, and paths that I can follow. There are many doors that are open to me because of the courses I have taken, and the people I have met along the way.

College has helped me become the person I am today.

I became a Paramedic which was a path I had never thought about in High School. I was a Fire Fighter. I was a Restaurant Manager. I was a Retail Manager. My first job was at McDonald’s. More importantly, I became a Mother.

I want to teach American Sign Language (ASL). I want to become an Interpreter of ASL. I want to publish my novel, Sapphire Eyes. I want to give my son the life he deserves.

I may not be a movie star, or a CEO of some huge building in New York, but I am me.

 I am Rebekah Honeycutt.

 I am proud of who I am, and who I will continue to become.

 

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A Thought: Capturing Memories

Capturing Memories

Have you ever sat down to look at an old photo album, some art work, old videos, or a journal? I do this a lot, usually when I’m cleaning house, and I don’t want to anymore. I enjoy looking through my past. I adore seeing those young faces looking back at me and my mind reeling with memories.

I have to admit, I have a photo addiction. I love to take photos, and I love to keep photos. I don’t want them to be hurt in any way, and I just can’t bring myself to throw them away (even the blurry ones).

I started making albums when I was thirteen. My mother bought me my first “Creative Memories” album. I spent so much time working on it: cutting pictures, taping them to the pages, drawing and organizing. I wanted to make my life memorable for future generations.

If you are a perfectionist, like me, it can become very time consuming. The up side is that you have an amazing artifact that you can pass down to your family. Creative Memories uses acid-free paper, pens, tape, etc. so that your photos won’t be damaged over time.

I have cheated recently and begun using a website where I download my digital photos and create a book to be printed by the company. It’s amazing! Still time consuming, but not as much time is taken from enjoying the day. The company I use is called Shutterfly.

I have also been lucky enough to have my sister move in with me. I was able to share my photo albums and my crazy teenage journals with her. I hate to admit it, but most of them are filled with this boy or that boy and how much I loved them. I can honestly say I was boy-crazy. *Gasps in shock*

These journals are also filled with insecurities and me trying to find myself. I’m not sure if they helped with her journey, but we enjoyed a lot of laughing at my expense.

I created a special journal for my pregnancy that one day my son will be able to read and enjoy. I wrote to him, telling him about my love for him and explaining what his father and I were doing to prepare for his birth. I made his father write inside of it also (not as much, but some). I also kept little trinkets and placed them inside the journal. This was important to me. I wanted to be able to share all of the thoughts and events we went through. I wanted my son to know he was created from love and he was wanted more than anything.

Memories are made every day. Sometimes we lose track of the fact that yesterday is now history and tomorrow will be also.

I want to leave this world with many memories that others can enjoy.

This is why I write. This is why I create.

What do you create?

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How to Be a Lady: Makeup

As with clothing, I don’t believe that the makeup you wear defines you as a lady. There are some websites I examined that attempt to explain that wearing light pinks makes you a lady. I don’t think so. If wearing pink all the time makes you a lady, then I really wouldn’t want to be one.

Makeup is meant to enhance your natural beauty. It is not meant to be worn as a cover-up. What is it about your face that makes you happy? When you look in the mirror, what is the first thing your eyes are drawn to? These are the things that make you unique.

When I look at my face, I tend to stare at my eyes for a long period of time (usually checking to see what color they are today- they change with my mood). Then I look at my lips. These are the two things I choose to enhance. Now, I don’t take away from them by putting too much work into them, I simply place a little color, glitter, or gloss then continue on with my day. I personally, never wear concealer. It just doesn’t let my skin feel normal; plus, I don’t want to leave smear marks on others when I hug them.

I saw a picture on Facebook today that mentioned makeup, and I quote:

“To all the girls that wear a lot of makeup: Take it easy, it’s called a FACE, not a coloring book.”

While this does display a rather humorous line, it also exhibits truth. When I see caked on concealer, I sit there and wonder to myself, “What is she ashamed of?” Usually my second thought is less about her emotions and more about her knowledge basis; “Maybe she hasn’t been taught the delicate art of makeup placement.”

When I was a young girl in Camp Fire Boys and Girls (similar to Girl/Boy scouts) we use to have Mary Kay Facial Parties. The Mary Kay consultants were incredible teachers that showed us how to correctly cleanse and apply makeup so that we accented our natural beauty. It’s easy to find a Mary Kay consultant if you’d like to try a party. There are also many places within the mall or around town that provide this service free of charge. Whichever company you choose will also show you the products that will be best for your skin texture and tones.

Of course, there are many websites that explain and guide you in this adventure. Take the time to glimpse at a few of them, and see which site feels the best to you. I especially encourage the sites that explain why they are placing colors in a certain place. (Some will make your eyes look larger, some smaller, etc.)

In conclusion, wear makeup the way you want to. I recommend educating yourself on applications and what they enhance. I don’t believe that what you wear on your body or on your face can define you as a lady. I do believe that you should wear what makes your self-esteem and self-love increase.

I found an interesting article called, A Brief History of Makeup by Christy Tillery French.

Here is her link: http://blogcritics.org/culture/article/a-brief-history-of-makeup/ 

 

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