Rebekah Honeycutt

Light and Love be with you!

How To Be a Lady: Clothing

So, I decided to Google “How to become a Lady” after I wrote my last piece… and I was appalled at some of the things I found. Some sites I found focus completely on fashion and makeup. So, let’s discuss clothing first.

I understand that in the older days, women were only considered ladies if they had money, acted in a certain way, and dressed in a certain manner. In my mind, that is only being perceived as a lady for the people around you. What personality did these women have away from the public eye? Were they happy with her inside and their outside?

When I think of the older days, my thoughts drift to the girl that worked as a servant. Let’s say she was kind-hearted, giving, caring, and understanding. She performed her job daily, no matter her tasks. She studied to increase her intelligence, and she showed pride in herself. She strived to do her best, and presented herself in a respectable manner. Overall, she may not have the best clothes in the room, but, I believe she would be considered a lady.

This leads back to: outward appearance is how others view you. When you wear an outfit, it attracts a certain type of response. You may feel like a lady on the inside, but present yourself in a manner which will make others see you in a different light. In my opinion, yes there are certain ways in which you should dress, but they do not define you as a lady.

To explain the dress comment I would have to present mini-skirts, extremely low cut tops, and shirts with “not-so-nice” comments on them. These can have a negative effect on how you are perceived, depending on how they are presented. I could see wearing a mini-skirt with tights underneath, or a low cut shirt over a tank top for a layering effect. I can’t find a way to present the “not-so-nice” comment shirt without simply leaving it at the store to be bought by someone else.

When wearing the type of attire listed above, you would appeal to a certain type of male. This male would not be the one to open doors, share an intelligent conversation, or lavish you with adoration. He would however, be able to show you a good time, tempt you to do things you may not want to, and give you attention for a short period of time. I can honestly say turning a man’s head as you walk down the street is a fantastic ego boost, but for what reason did he turn around? Was it to see your smile again, or your chest? Which would you prefer?

So, my advice is to wear clothes that are appropriate for your age and that portrays you as you wish to be seen. I prefer clothing that is comfortable, and yet appealing to me. You don’t need to show off “What the good lord gave you” as some people in my life say. I choose jeans and a t-shirt most days. When I want to feel pretty I choose a dressy top, maybe a long denim skirt. As long as the clothing isn’t portraying you in a negative manner, go with it.

Just remember, what you wear isn’t as important as who you are inside. Love you, and choose something that shows you are more than a body to be stared at.


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