Rebekah Honeycutt

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Dating: Doors and Cars

I have talked with multiple younger and older girls alike that don’t understand the reasoning behind the rule of opening doors when on a date. So, today’s post is about the etiquette of dating and cars.

When you decide that the guy you have met, or known for a while, is acceptable for you to go on a date with; you need to know the rules. The guidelines are as follows:

The gentleman you are going with, let’s call him “Jim”, will come to your front door to pick you up. Jim will have to meet your parents. Jim will have to encounter questioning from said parents. He should also offer the parents his cell phone number.

When you two leave the house, Jim will open the front door to escort you out.

Jim will then open the car door for you to sit in the passenger seat. He will wait until you are settled in to close the door behind you.

You will reach over and open his door from the inside.

Everywhere you go, you will sit patiently and smile sweetly when he comes around the car and opens your door for you to get out. You will also follow the instructions above each time you get into the car.

When the date is at a close, he will walk you to your front door, and then you will wait until he gets back to his car to go inside. (Sometimes, you will wait until you no longer see his car as he drives away.)

Now, I will explain why these things are done.

When Jim comes to the front door to meet the parents, he is displaying that he understands their concerns. He entertains their questions with honest answers because he wants to show that they can trust him with their daughter. He is also presenting himself so that the parents know what he looks like, his name, his phone number, and information about his car just in case anything happens. This helps to ease the parents mind so that you can have a better date.

Next, the reason Jim will open the car door for you is to display a sign of respect. He is telling you through his actions that he is interested in getting to know you, and that he will treat you like you are supposed to be treated- like a Lady.

When you reach over and open his door, this is saying to Jim that you also are interested in getting to know him, and you are showing a sign of respect for him.

When he escorts you to the door, he is making sure that you get home safely. He is also putting himself in front of the parents (who are hiding behind the window) in case he needs to be talked to. (If he brought you home late, etc.)

You are showing him the same concern when you wait until he gets back into his car. The reason you would wait until he is down the road is mostly because you are smitten by him, and you enjoyed your date. (If you didn’t enjoy yourself, go inside when he gets to his car.)

Now, when I explained all of this to my younger sister, I told her “DO NOT get into his car if he doesn’t open your door. Just stand there.”

The funny thing is, when this happened to her, she stood there like a lady and waited. (I was so proud.) The poor guy was completely lost. He got into his car. She stood beside the passenger door, and looked around at the scenery nonchalantly (like I had advised). He sat there, played with his radio, looked at his phone… then rolled down his window and asked her what was wrong. (WOW, right?) She peered down into his car window, smiled and said, “I am a lady, and you haven’t opened my door.”  He immediately got out and apologized. She decided to give him a second chance, and continued on their date.

By now, you can guess this guy was stuck in the friend zone at the end of this date. She had lots of stories to tell when she got home. I’ve had the same thing happen to me before, but none of them were half as slow to react as that guy.

Now that you know the reasoning, please make sure the guy you are with shows you respect. If not, don’t get into the car. It will only get worse as the night goes on. Just politely explain that you no longer wish to go with him tonight due to his lack of manners. The guy will more than likely apologize for his absence of gentleman-like qualities, and you can decide from there if you want to continue the date. I support whatever decision you come to at that point.

Speaking of gentleman-like qualities, I’ve decided I will also start blogging about how to be a gentleman soon.

Staring Nonchalantly into the distance


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